Liberated

What Makes a Healthy Relationship with Dylan James Levitt

Ever wish you were taught how to make a relationship work? The key is not "making a relationship work," it is making sure you know what makes a relationship work for you.

We've seen this theme before. Dylan James Levitt and I continue our conversation about how to comunicate with your partner, and also what's our work to do and what isn't. 

You'll know what to communicate from the get-go to set yourself and your relationship up in a healthy way.

(If you haven't heard part 1, listen to this first: www.boundlessheartpod.com/15) 

[0:00] What works (and doesn't) when communicating

[1:23] An interesting way to say "Liar" - an Inner Circle conversation

[5:22] Inner Circle Link www.boundlessheartpod.com/innercircle 

[6:14] Fear not the witches. Fear those who burned women alive.

[7:58] Why we stay when the relationship isn't healthy

[9:04] 3 things we need to communicate to determine true compatibility (Needs, Desires, Boundaries]

[16:42] Christi's Question: man is making choices based on anxiety. What do I do?

[18:19] What a healthy relationship takes

[19:29] Simplest communications shift with the biggest impact

[21:31] How to work with Dylan

[23:06] One personal question for Dylan

[23:50] What a lasting partnership needs

About my guest:

Dylan James Levitt is an author, relationship coach, and workshop facilitator who is passionate about bridging the gap between the sexes to make love work in the modern world. He give singles and couples tools to enhance their communication, build deeper connection, and create mutually satisfying relationships. Dylan is also passionate about transforming education and one day plans to found his own university combining formal education and self-education into one integrated curriculum.

Connect with Dylan James on Instagram: https://instagram.com/coachdylanjames

Join the Boundless Heart Inner Circle: https://boundlessheartpod.com/innercircle 

Connect with LC on IG: https://instagram.com/boundlessheartpod 

How to Get through to Men with Dylan James Levitt, Relationship Coach

What are you telling men about us? Dylan James Levitt, relationship coach, opens up about the men he has worked with as well as himself. He shares why it's so hard to talk to men about certain things and how we can get through to them. 

Have you ever wished your man would open up about his feelings, or be more open to hearing about how you think your sex life could improve? What if your man thinks he's doing the inner work, but you're not seeing it? This one's for you.

💜Join The Boundless Heart Inner Circle for bonuses and a sisterhood where we de-program ourselves from the patriarchy and rise together!💜

[0:00] Wrong relationship or bad communication?

[1:44] What Dylan telling the men about us? (Masculine/Feminine rather than Men/Women)

[5:33] What "High Quality Woman" really means to men

[8:46] Men & Women & Sex

[13:59] Do men want people pleasers?

[15:08] What is true nurturing?

[16:38] Best prevention of resentment: communication

[19:24] Miste's question: "What is the most common thing you see in men?"

[21:55} Libby's question: "Should women talk to men about their sexual desires? How?"

[25:02] Katy's question: "How do you handle it when your man isn't doing the inner work but says he is?"

[29:20] Personal responsibility & LC's realizations

[30:59] Ego Traps & Flags

[35:42] Behind the scenes peek

[36:51] Inner Circle Sisterhood https://boundlessheartpod.com/innercircle & Next week.

About My Guest

Dylan is an author, relationship coach, and workshop facilitator who is passionate about bridging the gap between the sexes to make love work in the modern world. He give singles and couples tools to enhance their communication, build deeper connection, and create mutually satisfying relationships. Dylan is also passionate about transforming education and one day plans to found his own university combining formal education and self-education into one integrated curriculum.

Connect with Dylan James on Instagram: https://instagram.com/coachdylanjames 

The Four Attachment Styles with Juniper Wong

You're going to know more about you after hearing this episode than you ever have before. 

💜As promised here is the Inner Circle Link: https://boundlessheartpod.com/innercircle 
Can't wait to see you there!

Attachment Theory explains everything about relationships. If you want a healthy relationshiop, you need to know your attachment style and so does your partner. Your attachment style developed in childhood through your relationships with your primary caregivers and our whole lives are running on the styles we adopted.

After this you'll know so much about who you are that you'll be mind blown. Juniper will come back again so we can dig into how to actually work with our attachment style and recover from whatever kind of childhood we had. Secure attachment is possible!

[0:00] Anxious Attachment

[2:26] Why care about attachment style?

[5:35] What is attatchment theory?

[7:15] The 4 attachment styles

[7:42] Secure attachers

[9:30] Avoidant Dismissive Attachers

[16:26] Tangent for HSP'S (Highly Sensitive People)

[17:49] Avoidant Dismissive Adults

[23:35] Anxious Preoccupied Attachers;

[29:48] LC's relationship woes

[31:21] Anxious Preoccupied heightened awareness

[32:24] Fearful Avoidant / Disorganized Attachers

[37:42] Disorganized Attachers as Adults

Ahhhh we ran out of time! So Juniper will be BACK. I'm being a little anxious preoccupied about it, but she said yes, she will definitely come back to talk about how we can start to heal from this stuff and get secure!

About My Guest 

Juniper Wong is a licensed clinical social worker and former high school English teacher who brings an eclectic approach of personal lived experience, creative arts, evidence based mental health practices, practical actionable skills, and humor to her therapy & coaching practices.

Connect with Juniper
www.juniperwong.com Sign up for our free webinar!

IG: https://instagram.com/juniperwong_
Tiktok: @juniperwong (sorry, I'm not on TIkTok and I don't know how to link it)

Connect with LC:
IG: https://instagram.com/boundlessheartpod

Inner Circle: https://boundlessheartpod.com/innercircle (donate link is at the bottom too!)

Coaching: email lc@beingboundless.com to inquire

Getting Through the Dark Night: How to Come Home to Yourself

The answer to getting through "the dark night" is this: you give yourself the dark night. That's where the light is.

When I was asked how I got through my divorce, felt better, bounced back, got my home, followed by her stating that she sees the tunnel but not the light... yet... I responded:

No, it's very dark for awhile. You're right where you're meant to be.

Getting through the dark night means you give yourself the opportunity to be in the dark. That's where the magic happens. This episode will give you the easiest way through that I've found so far.

[0:00] How do you get through the dark night? (any transformation)

[2:04] The purpose of darkness

[5:15] My journey into the dark

[7:12] Acceptance is not enough

[8:00] Breaking point

[9:44] What to do to get through 

[11:01] Narcissist's and Empaths - my theory

[12:08] The tool for coming home to yourself

[14:25] What I did to get Home

[16:26] At the edge of darkness & into the depths

[20:17] Conjuring (manifesting)

[21:31] Recap

[22:30] Let's try it now

[25:43] Next week: attachment styles with Juniper Wong

Join the Inner Circle & Rise in Sisterhood: https://boundlessheartpod.com/innercircle 

Support the podcast with a one-time gratitude donation: 
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Or https://tbh.supercast.tech - scroll down (I literally just sent an email to them to see if there's an easier way). 

I'd love to connect on IG! https://instagram.com/boundlessheartpod  

To work 1:1 with LC: lc@beingboundless.com to inquire. Use subject: Coaching

 

 

Am I Codependent? Signs, Symptoms & the Cure with Makia Smith Thomas

"Codependent" is not a "bad word." It would do everyone good to look into it a little bit.

Makia and I believe everyone is at least a little bit codependent, but most of us don't know what it really means.

If you have a hard time making decisions, find it hard to identify emotions, caretake for everyone, have trouble setting boundaries... congratulations, you're what the patriarchal culture calls, "A good woman." (if you're a woman). Here's something: these are actually signs of codependency, and you can break free!

Listen in to find out if you've been duped like Makia and I have into being codpendent--and learn the fastest way to freedom.

Ready to un-learn the patriarchal programming and find YOU again? Join the Boundless Heart Inner Circle: https://boundlessheartpod.com/innercircle

[0:00] Could I be codependent? Me?

[2:01] Is it empathy or codependency?

[4:29] Why ALL women (and men) need to know about codependency

[10:25] Lost & broken dreams, a prescription we all took

[13:53] Quiet patriarchal, codependent conditioning

[15:28] Signs of codependency

[18:44} Healing from codependency

[24:18] The power of I Am

[26:13] Why we don't know we're codependent

[27:22] Healing tools

[31:27] The Haute Goddess Blog 

[33:09] Empathy vs Codependency

About My Guest

Makia Smith Thomas aka The Haute Goddess knows no spiritual path is straight forward. She took many wrong turns along the way that used to fill her with shame and sadness. She now knows that none of it was in vain and is here to share her experiences. Makia does not consider herself an expert...just a woman who wants to share the many rich gifts and lessons that have worked for HER. After blogging for almost ten years, The Haute Goddess has encountered many amazing lessons and tools along the way that have been CRITICAL in her growth. Her brand and community provide a safe space for all women interested in connecting with others to support their journey.

Connect with Makia
https://www.thehautegoddess.com

https://instagram.com/hautemamadc 

Join The Boundless Heart Inner Circle
https://boundlessheartpod.com/innercircle 

Connect with LC
https://instagram.com/boundlessheartpod 

The Power of ”Pussy” - Yours - with Coco Berlin

Gasp! Yeah, that's the thing. Girls are taught to be ashamed of the very thing that brings human life into this world. We gotta stop that.

The most radiant, confident, and "able to set boundaries" women seem to be those who are not afraid of their own sexual anatomy. I'm no expert, but I have that anatomy and I wanted to learn a little. 

Let's de-charge this word, power ourselves up, and learn a little together.

[0:00] How to Claim Your Power

[2:12] Pussy Controversy

[5:03] What is Pussy Yoga & why women need it

[8:26] Coco's journey to finding her Pelvic Floor

[14:53] BONUS!! - the pelvic floor meditation is its own separate "episode" https://www.boundlessheartpod.com/pussy-yoga-meditation-with-coco-berlin-from-episode-11/ for the meditation

[15:32] LC's results from the bonus meditation

[15:40] Pussy Yoga for unifying consciousness

[16:54] The danger of kegels

[19:03] Benefits of pelvic floor integration (Pussy Yoga)

[22:04] This is not Kink Yoga

[23:22] Healing without overanalyzing & Epigenetics

[29:15] Connect with Coco

[30:21] Better Sex

Join our growing Inner Circle of women rising together: https://boundlessheartpod.com/innercircle

About My Guest 

Coco Berlin is a certified pelvic floor expert and the author of the bestselling book Pussy Yoga – Pelvic Floor Training for Radiance, Confidence and a Fulfilling Love Life. 

She is the founder of the Pelvic Floor Integration™ method, the SENSUOUS DANCE WORKOUT™, and the ESSENCE OF BELLYDANCE™ programs. Her work enables women to reconnect to their body and to step into their power with confidence and ease. Not just about feeling sexy, Coco’s approach prioritizes women’s health.

https://coco-berlin.com Check out Coco's home page and download her amazing 5-Minute Sensuous Dance Workout. It will instantly make you feel incredibly sensuous and confident in your body.

SOCIAL MEDIA
http://youtube.com/cocoberlin 
http://facebook.com/likeCOCO 
http://instagram.com/cocoberlin_

Connect with LC:
The Boundless Heart Inner Circle: https://boundlessheartpod.com/innercircle 

Instagram: https://instagram.com/boundlessheartpod 
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Use code LC15 for 15% off - https://bit.ly/corenansr 

Thank you for supporting the podcast!

 

🧘‍♀️Pussy Yoga Meditation with Coco Berlin - from Episode 11

Here is the meditation by Coco Berlin that I took out of her episode (#11) because I didn't want to ask you to stop driving, feeding your child, cleaning, or exercising in order to do it - and this way it easy to access to use anytime!

This meditation is nothing sexual - it simply puts you in conscious awareness of the anatomy of your pelvic floor and grounds you.

I have been meditating on my pelvic floor since she led me though this and I cannot tell you how much more clear, centered, grounded, and confident I am.

Enjoy!! We'll do some exercises at our next Inner Circle gathering! (Don't worry we'll keep it PG). Wanna join us? It's for you any of the following sound like you:

• You're a woman and you believe all genders are equally valid and valuable, and you don't think the world should be set up to benefit just the one and mostly just the white segment of said one.
• You've shrunk, stayed quiet, stayed small, given up on your own dreams... and you want to find you again.
• You really like this podcast and you hope it continues to shine light on this important subject matter of deconditioning women from the patriarchy and giving them tools to rise into their full expression and empowerment.
• Join us here: https://boundlessheartpod.com/innercircle 

Want more from Coco? You can sign up for a 5 minute sensual dance video at her website and learn all about her and her work! https://coco-berlin.com 

Enjoy!
💛LC

 

Healing Our Wounded Wild Instincts with Robin Clark

"Each woman's instinct will tell her what her next best step is." - Robin Clark

Have you spent most of your life asking, "How can I make this work for me?" This is exactly what we're taught we are - what women are - moldable to whomever is around us. 

When Robin was 22 years old she had a 70 year old tell her, "I was someone's daughter, I was someone's girlfriend, I was someone's wife, I was someone's mother, and then the kids left and my husband died, and I don't know who I am." This was in a psych ward after the woman had attempted suicide.

We get it, it's hard to not know who you are. It's hard to have lost yourself. Your instincts may be injured, but they are not gone. It's time to wake them, tend to them, heal them, and follow them.

[0:00] The Pizza Study

[2:03] Taking Empathy Back

[6:08] Healing Injured Instincts

[10:38] Support in Crossing the Bridge to Freedom

[13:29] What are the Wake Up Calls?

[17:57] Finding Support {Join the Inner Circle: https://boundlessheartpod.com/innercircle}

[19:47] The Real Relationship Fail AND Clarity

[21:12] Robin's Coaching https://robin-clark.com

[25:15] LC's & Robin's Wake Ups + Beyond Spirituality

[31:58] The Pizza Study

[33:20] Reclaiming One's Voice

[39:04] How Relationships are Affected

[40:57] You CAN Do This

[41:39] Connect + Up Next (Coco Berlin, author of Pussy Yoga) + Inner Circle

About My Guest

Robin Clark is a coach & photographer for women. She’s a feminist, an advocate for women to get free from the codependent, good-girl conditioning that has us looking for security in others, and a guide supporting women to cultivate a solid sense of ground within. She’s a lifetime student of the patriarchy’s impacts on women and is committed to passing on everything she’s learned to help women rise, feel empowered, and get more free. 

Connect with Robin

Website: https://robin-clark.com

Instagram: https://instagram.com/loverobinclark

Connect with LC

Join the Inner Circle: https://boundlessheartpod.com/innercircle

Find LC on Instagram: https://instagram.com/boundlessheartpod

Mentions:
CODA (Codependents Anonymous): https://coda.org 
Brene Brown: https://brenebrown.com 
Terrence Real: https://terryreal.com 
bell hooks: https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poets/bell-hooks 
Robin's favorites from bell hooks: Communion & The Will to Change

Authenticity: The Key to Finding Your Purpose with Angela Duckett

"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment." -Ralph Waldo Emerson

Angela Duckett, host of Authenticity Over Everything podcast, will blow your mind with her wisdom and practical advice for showing up and staying in your authenticity.

She says, "Authenticity isn't a state of being. It's a FACT."

If you're like the rest of us, authenticity has had vague and pretentious meanings depending on where you've been in your life. Angela reveals all here: What authenticity means, how to be it, and how to remain it. We talk boundaries, people pleasing, and getting comfortable with making others uncomfortable. She even reveals authenticity as the key to abundance. 

[0:00] Upholding our personal rights

[1:52] Definition of Authenticity & how we lose it

[7:02] How do we be authentic?

[11:20] Difficulty with those who already know us

[14:02] Inauthenticity in Spirituality

[17:26] Patriarchy - Who runs the world? (GIRLS!)

[20:31] Becoming aware of our inauthenticity & becoming authentic

[23:31] Working up to authenticity (small steps)

[24:32] Prerequisite to abundance

[25:27] What about Romantic Relationships?

[26:33] Steps/Phases to becoming authentic

[29:27] The power of authenticity & finding your purpose

[34:00] Greates Challenges & Rewards to reawakening authenticity

[40:22] Angela's podcast & store, and TBH community definitions from: Beth Jacobson, Joan Kellner, Bridgitte Weber, Nicole Vicks, Elizabeth Kelly Erickson, & Amanda Rohner

[44:29] Bonus for the Inner Circle!! (Join us HERE) - we talk about our 4 marriages between the 2 of us, and ROBIN CLARK is coming on next week!!!

About My Guest

Angela’s creative expression can be found in blog as well as her podcast, Authenticity Over Everything.  A trailblazer who never shies away from a new creative adventure, Angela is sure to entertain, encourage, and educate for years to come.

During one of those marriages I mentioned above, she journeyed to Hollywood where her corporate career in data management got its start on the Paramount Studios lot. Today she holds the title of Director of Data Quality Assurance with a large healthcare provider.  

Over her artistic career, she has worked as an actor, director, writer, and producer which includes several years at the helm of her own production company, Strong Mountain Productions.  She is an award-winning writer for her short scripts and her work has twice been solicited for the NAACP theater festival

Connect with Angela's Podcast, Authenticity Over Everything, and her Authentic Me store: https://linktr.ee/authenticityovereverything

Connect with Angela on IG: https://instagram.com/authenticity.over.everything

Connect with LC: Join the Inner Circle: https://tbh.supercast.tech for all the bonuses and community

Free FB Group: https://facebook.com/groups/beingboundless

Instagram: https://instagram.com/laurachristineofficial

Mentions:

Inner Circle: https://tbh.supercast.tech

Next week's guest, Robin Clark: https://instagram.com/loverobinclark

Boundaries & People Pleasing Recovery Episodes:

Tena Roethle: www.boundlessheartpod.com/6

Zach Jensen: www.boundlessheartpod.com/8

Olivera Milojkovic: www.boundlessheartpod.com/2

EXLUSIVE DISCOUNT

Nervous System Recalibration session with Corena Hammer: https://bit.ly/corenansr - use code LC15. Thank you for supporting the podcast and taking care of YOU!

Overcoming People Pleasing with Zach Jensen

Do you give more than you take in your friendships and other relationships?

Do you ever wonder if your friends only like you because you always go along with what they want to do?

Has anyone ever called you a "people pleaser?" And, like me, have you also denied it? 🙋‍♀️ I have.

This is your episode, and this is your podcast. 

Zach & I talk about people pleasing, how we got to be such people pleasers ourselves, the differences and similarities between men and women "pleasers," and - here's the good part: the freedom of overcoming people pleasing!

[0:00] Do you do these people pleasing behaviors?

[1:39] What is it, how do we become pleasers, and is it different for women and men?

[6:31] Cynthia's question & "the dirty" and superpower of people pleasing

[9:44] Societal problems and emerging solutions

[17:30] The value of community 

[20:40] Overcome people pleasing {Ready for the Inner Circle? https://tbh.supercast.tech}

[21:11] The keys to recovery (Nicole's question)

[26:50] Carlie's question & the best part of recovery

[29:23] Why change is so hard

[31:00] Awkward but okay conversation between two recovering people pleasers on relationships and why we're not talking about s/x.

Mentions: 

Book Mention: Codependent No More

My therapist has her own episode (#6) https://boundlessheartpod.com/6 

Connect with Zach on Instagram: https://instagram.com/_zach_jensen_

Join the Boundless Hear Inner Circle: https://tbh.supercast.tech

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LC on IG: https://instagram.com/laurachristineofficial